In today’s video, I discuss how to handle retroactive jealousy destroying relationship.







Read or watch below to learn strategies for dealing with retroactive jealousy destroying relationship.



















Zachary Stockill: Are you ruining a perfectly good relationship because of retroactive jealousy?







Maybe you’re pushing your partner away—on purpose or without even realizing it—because you’re worried about their past.







If that sounds like you, you’ll probably want to stick around for today’s video.







My name is Zachary Stockill, and since 2013, I’ve been helping men and women around the world overcome retroactive jealousy and rebuild their relationships.







If you’re curious about my work or interested in working with me one-on-one, click here.







Retroactive jealousy is the term used to describe unwanted, intrusive thoughts—often obsessive curiosity or what I call “mental movies”—about your partner’s past relationships or sexual and dating history.







You might struggle with just one of these, or all three.







But when I talk about retroactive jealousy, that’s exactly what I mean.







Here are a few signs to think about.







So how can you tell if you might be unintentionally sabotaging your relationship because of retroactive jealousy?



















First, are you constantly interrogating your partner?







Do you find yourself asking the same questions about their past again and again, even though they keep giving you the same—or very similar—answers?







This kind of behavior is a form of relationship sabotage because it creates tension and emotional distance between you and your partner.







Over time, it can wear down the connection and even lead to the end of the relationship.







Your partner might start to feel like nothing they say is ever enough—that they can’t do anything right—which often leads to frustration and emotional burnout.







Ask yourself this: are you asking these questions because you genuinely want to understand your partner better—or are you just trying to calm your own anxiety in the moment?







Another clear sign that retroactive jealousy might be sabotaging your relationship is when you’re constantly comparing yourself to your partner’s ex.







Or maybe you’re comparing yourself to more than one of your partner’s exes.







You might be doing it physically, emotionally, or even sexually.







Not everyone who struggles with retroactive jealousy does this, but many do—and it’s important to remember that comparison often leads to insecurity and resentment.







Your partner might start to feel like they’re being punished for something they can’t change.







Which, of course, is their past.







And it’s important to remember—your partner chose you for a reason.







Their past doesn’t define who they are now, and it definitely doesn’t define how they feel about you today.







Another sign that retroactive jealousy might be harming your relationship is if you find yourself pulling away—emotionally, and maybe even physically.







From your partner.